KINKY TIMES

Welcome to our blog! We’re Dan and Vee, two nerds eager to share how to spice up your sex life with ideas and tips we wish we’d known when we started exploring our sexuality.

If you’re seeking intense content right away, this post might not be for you but we hope you can explore out our other posts and new stories to come! Topics in this introduction include: understanding new desires, communicating with your partner, where to start & what to expect, and the classic sexuality myths.

Researching and being here is already a big step if you are starting to explore anything beyond vanilla. We won’t dictate the «best» way; we’ll share what worked for us, hoping you’ll find something useful. Let’s begin with «Why do I suddenly like this?» Whether driven by curiosity, a partner’s influence, or a desire to explore, remember there’s no shame in discovering your sexuality. Ensure everything is Legal, Safe and Consensual (LSC).

Think of kink like food sometimes you want something different than your usual fare and there is nothing wrong with that, most importantly I want you to feel normal if you are not feeling it right now as long as you remember LSC, experiment to find what you enjoy it’s nothing to make you feel bad. Join online communities where they talk about your interests and find that you are not alone in this or if you are more social go to local meetups to connect with them.

Our journey involved trial and error, from vanilla sex to exploring various kinks. Communication and trust were crucial as we shared our fantasies and learned more about what excited us. If you’re wondering how to discuss this with your partner, program a time in your day, tell your partner that is something on your mind, open a dialogue, be honest, and respect their feelings, everyone’s preferences differ, it might be hard but accept that what you like might not appeal to your partner, and that’s okay. Respect is key in any relationship and as long as they don’t make you feel bad about liking what you like (that is LSSC) they are in their right not to want to try it, talk about them meeting you halfway whenever possible.

Above all else avoid unrealistic expectations, your partner won’t become a sex-crazed demon (if that’s what you both like) overnight, and never pressure your partner if they don’t want to try it respect that NO means NO. We do recommend that you write down your likes, dislikes, and boundaries, and discuss intensity, yes it’s embarrassing but if you want to scratch that itch you have to be open about it.

Myths about kink that we wished we knew before: it’s not just for the young, it’s not solely about pain, and it’s not extreme by default. Kink is about mutual consent and enjoyment, more than anything it will deepen your relationship further, the other important thing is you are going to make mistakes when trying things it’s normal, you both will be embarrassed at some point and you need to laugh about it because you both are normal doing silly things (stimulating and wonderful things but still silly at some point).

We’ll explore specific kinks in future posts. . For now, take your time, communicate, and enjoy the journey of discovering your sexuality together and if you came for ideas to try as soon as possible we also have a game you can try just click the following link.